Gentle Parenting Isn’t Working — Here’s Why
You know the scripts.
But in the moment, they disappear.
The Real Problem
It’s not lack of knowledge.
It’s lack of capacity. If you’re totally overwhelmed and burnt out, it’s so hard to be the gentle parent you want to be. We need to connect with ourselves first, and then connect with our child from a base level of calm and safety within us.
What Actually Helps
Regulation before response. Kids are the best BS detectors - they can feel when we aren’t grounded and then what we say doesn’t feel authentic. Take 30 seconds to breathe, put your hand on your heart, feel the ground beneath your feet and THEn respond.
Example Script
“I’m feeling overwhelmed. I’m going to pause, then I’ll help you.” - this is also INCREDIBLE modelling for your children as they grow up!
FAQ
Why can’t I stay calm?
Because your nervous system is overloaded.
How do I make gentle parenting work?
Focus on regulating yourself first… and mama, please reach out and get support.
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